Vol.1, Ed. 40 Feb. 15, 2025 - ✨Gravity🚀

“Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become.” — James Clear

Dear Brilliant Community,

Besides one week at Christmas, I’ve sent 40 newsletters.

Forty returns to orbit.

There have been seasons in my life where I am consistent… until I’m not. Where I burn bright, then drift. Where the idea is strong but the rhythm isn’t.

But this time, I kept coming back.

Every week.

Even when it was busy.

Even when it was quiet.

Even when I wondered who was reading.

Someone recently asked me if I was still sending it.

“I thought you stopped.”

Nope.

I forwarded the ones they missed. They wrote back: “I’m so proud of you.”

That word — proud — landed differently than I expected.

Because this isn’t about email.

It’s about gravity.

Forty newsletters means something is holding.

Not motivation.

Not mood.

Not inspiration.

Gravity.

A decision made once, honored repeatedly.

And this week, while reading Never Eat Alone, I realized something.

The book isn’t really about networking. It’s about not drifting.

It’s about following up within 24 hours.

It’s about remembering names.

It’s about checking back in.

It’s about tending to relationships the way you tend to work that matters.

It’s about consistency.

And that’s where it caught me.

I love people.

I love asking questions.

I love learning how someone thinks.

I have always been the one who remembers birthdays. If I know your birthday once, I will know it forever. It’s like my mind keeps constellations of the people I care about.

But warmth is not the same thing as orbit.

Interest is not the same thing as return.

Sending the first email is not the same thing as following up.

And if I’m honest, that’s where my growth is.

Consistency is not loud.

It’s not performative.

It’s not even impressive in the moment.

It’s the second email.

The calendar reminder.

The “just checking in.”

The lunch that actually gets scheduled.

The note sent within 24 hours instead of “sometime soon.”

It’s the small return.

Forty newsletters didn’t happen because I felt inspired every week.

They happened because I decided this mattered enough to come back to.

Now I’m asking myself:

What would shift if I treated my relationships with the same gravity?

Not transactional.

Not strategic in a cold way.

But intentional.

Because I don’t want to network.

I want to make friends.

I want to build a galaxy where people know they are remembered.

Where conversations don’t disappear into good intentions.

Where clarity is practiced, not just written about.

Consistency is a form of love.

It says:

I will return.

I will follow up.

I will close the loop.

I will not drift away from what I say matters.

Forty is proof of orbit.

Now I’m expanding the field.

So I’ll leave you with this:

Where in your life are you warm… but drifting?

And what would change if you chose gravity instead?

Be Well,

Soyini